Q: Bad financial choices have hit my friend hard. I am fortunate to be in a very different situation. What should I do to let her know I’m sorry for her without seeming to gloat?
A: You’re right to be sensitive to your friend’s needs at this time. In fact Emily Post always said, “Etiquette is a sensitive awareness to the needs of others.” Be sensitive when discussing your own life with her. Avoid conversations about money when possible. Continue to extend invitations, and try to find things you can do together that don’t involve money. Maybe invite her to take a walk, visit a park or come over to your house for dinner rather than going out to a restaurant. All she may need right now is a shoulder to lean on and someone who will listen to her.