Q. I recently had a destination wedding in Jamaica. Many of the people there, including close friends didn’t give us a wedding gift or even a well wishes card. I must say I am a little surprised and taken back. Most of the people could obviously afford to go to the wedding. Is it customary to not send a gift for guests of destination weddings? Should I send thank you’s to people that did not give us a gift?
A. It is always considered obligatory for one who attends a wedding, whether it is down the block or on a remote island, to give a gift to the wedding couple. I can only imagine that those who attended mistakenly thought that since they incurred a large amount of expenses to attend your wedding, that they need not provide a gift in addition.
The best thing you can do is write a letter to the so-far non-gift-giving guests. Thank them for being with you on your special day and express your pleasure in having them be there.