Q. An elderly friend’s husband is near death and will soon enter into hospice care. Is it more appropriate to call or to write my friend during this time?
A. It is fine to call and tell your friend that you are thinking of her, are sad for her, and would like to help in any way you can, and then ask her what you can do to be of help. It is important for friends to show they care and for the anxious or bereaved to know they are cared about.