Q: My brother-in-law and his wife will visit us this summer, and I’m concerned because I know he expects to be able to smoke in our home. I have three young children and won’t allow it. The problem is that my husband is uncomfortable about saying no smoking and has left it up to me to handle the situation. Is there anything I can say that won’t get us all into a family feud?
A: You shouldn’t have to say anything more than that you don’t allow smoking in your house or around your children. I’d tell your brother-in-law before he makes travel plans, so there won’t be any misunderstanding when arrives. It’s your call when it comes to anything involving your home and children, particularly on a health issue. If your brother-in-law won’t agree to your request, tell him he’ll have to smoke outside-or find another place to stay. I hope it doesn’t come to that and that he’ll respect your house rules.