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Entertaining Trade Off

Entertaining Trade-off: When you’re always the host

February 22, 2019 2 Comments

Entertaining Trade Off


Q: I frequently invite a close friend over for dinner, and it irritates me that she hasn’t extended any invitations in return.  She has enough money to entertain.  How can I tell her that she should reciprocate?

A: You can’t really tell someone to invite you anywhere.  Though she should reciprocate, there are undoubtedly reasons she doesn’t.  Maybe entertaining makes her nervous or she puts in long hours at work.  Bear in mind that invitations need not be returned in-kind; your friend could invite you out for a restaurant meal.  If she isn’t doing even that-and you’re really ticked off-you could stop having her over, but that would be harsh if she’s such a close friend.  Perhaps you could concentrate on ways in which she demonstrates friendship other than entertaining?

February 25, 2019


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    February 26, 2019

    Nice post!

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    Jane Doe

    February 26, 2019

    If you’re expecting reciprocity in hosting duties, you’re hosting for the wrong reasons! Some people don’t like hosting and that’s fine.