Q: I’ve been invited to my friend’s renewal of wedding vows, which will be followed by a small gathering at a restaurant. Do I bring a gift? If so, do you have any suggestions about what’s appropriate?
A: A reaffirmation of vows almost always coincides with the couple’s anniversary, so, yes, take a gift to your friends gathering (unless the invitation specifically states “no gifts”). If they’re celebrating a milestone anniversary, you might select an item made of the material associated with the year (e.g., silver or pewter for a twenty-fifth). Other suggestions: an item for their home or hobby, such as a picture frame, a special book, a bottle of champagne, or bulbs or tools for their garden.