Q: I took care of my neighbor’s cat while she was on vacation, and he wound up ruining one of my chairs. My neighbors apologized profusely but didn’t offer to pay for the damage. Should she have?
A: Yes. It’s her responsibility, and it’s also a thoughtful and reasonable gesture to make some restitution. But you can’t ask her to make up for the loss if she doesn’t take the hint. Since she didn’t, you’ll just have to grin and bear it-and decline her request to cat-sit if it comes up again.