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Far Far Away: Pricey travel weddings

April 5, 2019 1 Comments

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Q: My fiance and I are getting married in Jamaica.  Are we expected to help any members of our bridal party pay for their airfare?  We’re worried that if we do this for only a couple of attendants but not for all of them, they might compare notes and feelings will be hurt.

A: “Destination Weddings,” which are becoming more popular, usually dictate a smaller bridal party (and guest list) for this very reason-such affairs can be hard on the pocketbook.  But subsidies aren’t required:  If someone you’ve asked to be in the wedding can’t afford the trip, he or she can always decline for that reason.  Then it’s your call whether you want to offer some financial assistance.  If you do end up paying for an attendant or two, explain that you’re relying on their discretion to keep mum.  I’m sure they’ll understand this is a private manner and restrain themselves from comparing notes.

April 8, 2019

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    Deloris

    April 5, 2019

    Hi!! I agree with your answer, but in my opinion of you are going to have a wedding faraway from home, you should pay for the members of your bridal party, or have a wedding without then. It’s becoming a custom now to have weddings in other countries and that is great, but don’t make people have to pay for an airfare that are so expensive. Have a wedding with members of your family that can afford their way there. I think you should pay everyones airfare, in the end they are doing you a favor.

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