Q: Please help me settle a debate with a friend. I say you should wait at least a month before visiting someone who has had a baby because the parents will be way too exhausted to entertain guests. But my friends says no, you should try to stop by briefly during the first two weeks.
A: There’s no “right” date that works for everybody. Some new parents throw open their doors to all the day after the baby comes home; others want to be left alone for the first few months. What you need to do is ask the new parents-after their infants arrival ( first-timers sometimes underestimate how wiped out they will be). You might also ask if you can bring dinner, or provide some other assistance. And finally, if there’s an older sibling or two in the house, be sure not to spend every minute oohing and aahing over the bassinet; this is a time when everybody needs a little attention.