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Playground Busybodies: When they won’t leave you alone

May 3, 2019 1 Comments

Q: Going to the local playground is not much fun anymore because my child is more than a year old and isn't walking yet.  I hate probing questions from the other moms (whom I barely know).  How do I change the subject when a stranger asks, "Is she walking yet?"  A: The other parents probably don't stop to think that children grow and acquire new skills at vastly different rates, so what is one mother's icebreaker can be another mother's  sensitive spot.  When someone asks a question that makes you tense try a bit of humor:  "Not quite yet, but she's a champion crawler."  Then shift things by asking, "How about your child?  How old is she?  I love her little shoes!"

Q: Going to the local playground is not much fun anymore because my child is more than a year old and isn’t walking yet.  I hate probing questions from the other moms (whom I barely know).  How do I change the subject when a stranger asks, “Is she walking yet?”

A: The other parents probably don’t stop to think that children grow and acquire new skills at vastly different rates, so what is one mother’s icebreaker can be another mother’s  sensitive spot.  When someone asks a question that makes you tense try a bit of humor:  “Not quite yet, but she’s a champion crawler.”  Then shift things by asking, “How about your child?  How old is she?  I love her little shoes!”

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    Stefanie Newman

    May 3, 2019

    I just find it sad that what was probably an innocuous icebreaker question is regarded with such hostility. Unless followup conversation shows the question was meant as a dig why assume it at the outset ? This is why everybody is hiding in their Iphones. Everyone is so ready to take offense.

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