Q: A coworker recently invited me to her wedding, but the invitation was clearly addressed only to me and not my husband as well. Isn’t this bad form?
A: Yes, the invitation should have been addressed to both of you, because spouses, fiances, or live-in companions are invited to all weddings. The likeliest explanation is that rather than exercising “bad form,” your coworker was simply unaware of this guideline. Your response depends on your relationship. If she’s a good friend, you might want to enlighten her in as tactful and gracious way as possible. If she’s more of a casual acquaintance-and you’ve discovered that the wedding is tightly budgeted-you could either decline or, if your husband isn’t interested in attending anyway, go to the wedding solo and socialize with other coworkers.