Q: I have a close friend whose parents and siblings are bilingual. Whenever I visit them, they speak to me in English but in Spanish to one another. This makes me uncomfortable.
A: It is impolite to speak in a foreign language in front of others who don’t understand it, but it’s awkward-at best-to tell one’s hosts how to behave. I’m quite sure that your friend and her family are unaware that they’re being rude, and they’d be horrified to think you find them inhospitable. Just try not to let this become a big deal.