Q: I have a close friend whose parents and siblings are bilingual. Whenever I visit them, they speak to me in English but in Spanish to one another. This makes me uncomfortable. A: It is impolite to speak in a foreign language in front of others who don't understand it, but it's awkward-at best-to tell one's hosts how to behave. I'm quite sure that your friend and her family are unaware that they're being rude, and they'd be horrified to think you find them inhospitable. Just try not to let this become a big deal.

Mi Casa Es Su Casa?: How to traverse bilingual hosts

May 31, 2019 1 Comments

Q: I have a close friend whose parents and siblings are bilingual.  Whenever I visit them, they speak to me in English but in Spanish to one another.  This makes me uncomfortable.  A: It is impolite to speak in a foreign language in front of others who don't understand it, but it's awkward-at best-to tell one's hosts how to behave.  I'm quite sure that your friend and her family are unaware that they're being rude, and they'd be horrified to think you find them inhospitable.  Just try not to let this become a big deal.

Q: I have a close friend whose parents and siblings are bilingual.  Whenever I visit them, they speak to me in English but in Spanish to one another.  This makes me uncomfortable.

A: It is impolite to speak in a foreign language in front of others who don’t understand it, but it’s awkward-at best-to tell one’s hosts how to behave.  I’m quite sure that your friend and her family are unaware that they’re being rude, and they’d be horrified to think you find them inhospitable.  Just try not to let this become a big deal.

June 3, 2019

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    Linda Tyndorf

    June 1, 2019

    Just attended my husband’s cousin’s granddaughter’s wedding. The Catholic church service was over an hour long and all done in Spanish. They had their own musicians also with horns and singers, to which the sound was way to loud for the acoustics also. Then there was the reception which had all Mexican food and non-stop loud music. My husband’s family was first generation Polish and yet felt when they came to this country, they would learn English because of the respect for the country. I did feel this was disrespectful and a waste of an entire day. Maybe the invitation should have stated it would all be in Spanish. Here I thought we’d be rude not to attend.

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