Q: My cousin’s children are older than mine, and she’s always sending me their hand-me-downs. I don’t want to insult her; but these things are usually too worn or stained to put on my boys. Can I ask her to stop giving them to me?
A: If the two of you are close, and your sure she wouldn’t be offended, you can give it a try. But certainly don’t imply that the clothes aren’t up to your standards. Her motives are good, so be gracious. Thank her for her thoughtfulness, but say that your boys’ closets are overflowing. Then suggest that she send the clothes to someone who could use them more.