Q: I have a three-inch-long visible scar on my neck due to a recent operation. My coworkers keep asking me questions about it, which I find intrusive. How do I stop the prying without being rude?
A: Even if your colleagues are motivated by concern, they are out of line. Remember, you’re under no obligation to give out personal information if you don’t want to, especially in the office. But that doesn’t mean you should snap, “It’s none of your business.” That would make you just as rude as your coworkers. A good way to deter questions is through humor. You could say: “Didn’t you hear? I’ll do anything to get extra vacation days.” Or, simply, “There are definitely more interesting things going on at this office that we can talk about.” Then change the subject.