Q: When my daughter goes out to dinner or the movies with a friend’s family, I always give her money ahead of time so she can pay her share. But she says they never accept money from her. I don’t want my child to seem like a sponge. How do I help her be more insistent with them?
A: Some parental intervention might be a better course. Call her friend’s parents and thank them for including your daughter, but tell them you’d like to pay for her tickets and meals. They might accept your offer, because it’s coming from an adult. But if they still insist on footing the bill, there’s not much you can do other than accept graciously. Just remind your daughter to always thank them. Another way to handle this is reciprocity. Include the friend in some of your family outings, paying her way.