Q: My daughter wants a small wedding, so she didn’t invite any children. But a few RSVP’s have arrived with kids’ names written in. How can we tell parents to leave little ones at home?
A: An adults-only wedding is definitely the bride and groom’s prerogative. Though parents may disagree, it’s impolite to add a child to the guest list. So how do you stand firm? Call the RSVPers and say you’re delighted they can make it, but they’ll need to make other arrangements for their kids. If many out-of-towners are attending, perhaps you could hire a baby sitter. But regardless of what you do, it’s important not to make any exceptions because parents who do comply will be upset if they see a fellow guest’s children running around.