Q: I have a friend who keeps asking to borrow my cell phone for “a quick call.” Problem is, her calls are rarely quick, so she’s cutting into my allotted monthly minutes. Plus, she gabs away as if I’m not even there. Am I overreacting?
A: No, you’re not. It’s normal for you to feel slighted when a pal dials other friends while spending time with you. Adding injury to insult, her shooting the breeze is costing you money. You’d be wise to speak up before this situation dampens your friendship. In a non confrontational way, tell her an an occasional short call is okay. And let her know your reasons: Airtime is expensive and, most important, you want to be with her, not stand on the sidelines while she’s chatting to others. Rest assured, you’re not alone. A recent survey of cell-phone usage reveals that nine people out of ten felt slighted when someone they’re with makes a call.