Q: At an afternoon play date, my seven-year-old son was shown a gory video and has had trouble sleeping ever since. When I ran into his friend’s mother, I asked why she had shown that kind of movie to young kids. She countered by saying that if I was so uptight, our children couldn’t play together. Should I have handled this differently?
A: It sounds as if you were right about the video-it wasn’t a good choice. But if you would like your son to keep seeing this friend, go back to the mother and say that you’re sorry you criticized her. Tell her that, just as some mothers are concerned about their kids’ eating candy at friends’ homes, you are concerned about the movies they watch and need to know what they will be viewing.